Many of our beliefs about love are incorrect. The more love you feel, the less likely you are to be depressed.
Depression often stems from a lack of love. The less love you have, the more depression you may experience. Most people will experience love in their lifetime, and love is one of the most important things in life. The most common source of depression is not feeling loved. Many depressed people don’t love themselves and don’t feel loved by others. This self-centeredness makes them less attractive and robs them of their happiness and opportunities to learn love skills.
In our culture, there is a myth that love happens by accident. Depressed people often wait passively for someone to help them or love them. But love isn’t like that. You can’t get and keep love that way. You have to be active and learn specific skills.
- Know the difference between love and limerence. Limerence is the psychological state of intense infatuation. It feels great, but it rarely lasts. Limerence is the first stage of strong attraction, where all the hormones flow, and everything feels perfect. On average, limerence lasts about six months.
- Love, on the other hand, can develop over time. It doesn’t always start as limerence. Love is not just a natural emotion; it’s a skill you can learn. It’s not just about hormones or emotions. Erich Fromm described love as “an act of will.”
- You will almost certainly fail to love if you do not learn how to love. This can lead to feelings of depression, not only because of a lack of connection but also because of repeated failures.
- Learn good communication skills to build trust and strengthen your connections. The more you communicate, the less depressed you will feel because you will know and understand others, and they will understand you.
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